25 April 2008
Patterico, and the lawyers who co-blog and comment at his site, is/are a great example of how I feel about most attorneys. Excellent minds, strong character, and respect for the opinions of others are business as usual there.
I'm currently at my wits end though. (Note: I've deleted this part and re-written it four five six times so far before publishing... that's how difficult this is to talk about.) We're trying to work through an attorney to fix mistakes our first attorney made when we adopted our two daughters. This new attorney is ate up from the floor up as well, but we've already paid them over 6,000 dollars and can't afford the time or money to search for another one. This is on top of the thousands of dollars we paid the first attorney.
These last two day-trips out of town were to try and finalize these legal issues. It took a toll on my health and today was the last straw. They sent me an email about 15 minutes before the end of the workday saying they needed a copy of my birth certificate before they could go any further. My birth certificate. Which, by the way, we gave them a copy of at our very first effing meeting.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that I know most lawyers are good people trying to do a good job. I'm just so disheartened right now that it's difficult to blog or even comment elsewhere. I'm sick with worry that we might lose our daughters and my health is spiraling down because of it.
I'm taking a break for a while, maybe a long while, maybe forever. I want to thank everyone who has come by to visit and hope you've found it worthwhile. I appreciate all the support too, you know who you are.
However, being I'm one of those lawyers, but not really that much experience in adoption--if you want to email privately with details, maybe I'll have a lightbulb or two.
(kishnevi at yahoo dot com)
Posted by: kishnevi at 25 April 2008@22:52:16 (DqtzB)
Posted by: kishnevi at 25 April 2008@22:55:27 (DqtzB)
Posted by: nk at 25 April 2008@23:03:18 (vVpmD)
Posted by: Patterico at 25 April 2008@23:11:43 (En46O)
In the meantime, here's some non-legal advice:
1. Do more than take a break. You need to really de-stress and not just go through the motions. Take a deep breath. Take a hot shower or drink some hot tea and honey. Watch a funny movie with your kids/spouse and REALLY LAUGH. Laugh a lot, even if you don't feel like it. That's very important for you and for your kids, because they know when parents are stressed. And if everything works out, it won't do your kids much good to have a sick parent.
2. At some point, you will need to calmly explain all your concerns to your attorney(s) so, in the next days, you need to think about your concerns and write them down as succinctly as possible. For instance, one point might be that you are concerned they are asking you for documents you provided at the first meeting because it suggests they are not careful with your documents and/or sufficiently familiar with your file.
3. I think it's a good idea to stop blogging for awhile. Your mind has other things to think about right now. All bloggers blog in fits and starts and it will still be here when you're ready.
Posted by: DRJ at 25 April 2008@23:23:27 (wE7Og)
Posted by: JVW at 26 April 2008@00:14:39 (vecQ9)
Posted by: sillyblindharper at 26 April 2008@00:57:28 (5+XEL)
For what they are they worth, Stash, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. You’re a good man who has done good works for our country. If there is anything I can do, let me know.
Posted by: JBHood at 26 April 2008@09:05:01 (tycgB)
Stash, you have mail. But I want to offer support here, as well. You are such a good, strong person. Dave and I send prayers and warm thoughts, now and always. With heart, ---Starry
Posted by: Starry Fruit at 26 April 2008@09:20:00 (3wKL/)
Posted by: Fatwa Arbuckle at 26 April 2008@10:12:42 (rCrVJ)
Posted by: S. Weasel at 26 April 2008@11:26:46 (Dy8+A)
It's been great stopping in here to read your stuff, but family and health have to come first. We'll still be here when you're ready to come back.
Posted by: Gabriel Malor at 26 April 2008@11:59:45 (1Ug6U)
I have great faith in the strength of the people who make up your family. I'll be thinking of you today. As always, call on me if there's anything I can do.
Posted by: sillyblindharper at 26 April 2008@14:58:38 (5+XEL)
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
This is the only help that I can offer, but we know that Gerbil Prayers are Powerful.
Take Care, good friend.
Posted by: Rabbit at 26 April 2008@18:31:46 (GkYyh)
Posted by: Conservative Belle at 27 April 2008@22:55:11 (51fqa)
Posted by: doubleplusundead at 27 April 2008@23:22:17 (ZuzXA)
Posted by: sillyblindharper at 28 April 2008@03:25:32 (5+XEL)
You've my prayers and thoughts along with all the others.
Posted by: Tex-LA at 28 April 2008@12:03:45 (yFIK0)
Posted by: EW1(SG) at 28 April 2008@13:31:01 (YcNsA)
Posted by: PattyAnn at 28 April 2008@18:00:11 (RjpjS)
I'll see if we can help you from this end. We aren't lawyers, but we can contribute and offer our prayers.
Be strong, as there's a lot of people pulling for you.
Posted by: Lemur King at 28 April 2008@18:01:43 (xm8X7)
Posted by: Steamboat McGoo at 28 April 2008@18:45:29 (DvoWL)
We've got your back, and lots of people will do what they can to help out a good man!
Posted by: Kat at 28 April 2008@19:21:27 (aw24G)
Posted by: Michael at 29 April 2008@18:35:48 (Ph1JO)
Posted by: Michael at 29 April 2008@19:00:40 (Ph1JO)
Posted by: Michael at 29 April 2008@19:04:28 (Ph1JO)
Posted by: Michael at 29 April 2008@20:26:12 (Ph1JO)
I've got an adopted daughter and if anyone tried to take her away from me, I'd wind up dead or in jail. Or both.
I'm not a lawyer and unless you live in Hawaii, I can't come over and help out, but I can hit your tipjar.
Stay strong, my friend. Let us know what we can do to help.
Posted by: open channel D at 07 May 2008@18:06:36 (zda7r)
Posted by: Stashiu3 at 07 May 2008@21:19:40 (Q5ggV)
Keep the faith!
Posted by: D&K at 08 May 2008@12:42:28 (61+Cb)
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